Discover Your Potential…

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When you have been through something life changing, something you wished you never had to experience in your life, which most of us have, it changes you. It changes you to the extent that you will never be the person you were before, before it happened.

Experiencing an abusive relationship causes so much damage,to yourself and the people around you. For me it was self doubt, no self worth, broken relationships with my family and friends for having put them through the experience and for actually thinking you could help someone like that. Well you can’t! I learnt that the hard way, while it happened.

I’m not going to go into detail about that time, but I will tell you how I got myself back and how I look at the positive side, because if this didn’t happen I would not be where I am today. And I’m pretty happy about where I am right now, after it happened.

I moved back in with my parents for 12 months and worked on building back my relationships with my Mum & Papa, Brother & Sister & the extended family. It was actually pretty horrible to have my siblings not want to associate with me, this actually contributed to me doubting myself and feeling unworthy. But I had to face the reality that I hurt them. Sometimes I wished that they would have just hugged me a said let’s get on with it together, we are here to help you, especially as they know that I’m the type of person that always want to help people. My friends, in particular my besties, were easier to connect with during this time and it was effortless to have them understand and be there for me, as best friends are. I can never thank them enough for the bond we share as friends, as true friends are hard to find these days.

During these 12 months I suffered often from anxiety attacks. Convenient that mum was always around when this would happen and she would just hold me, hold me tight. It was all I needed to calm down. I had one on one counselling sessions and also joined a local group session for women that had experienced or even still in an abusive relationship. Being apart of these sessions, talking and listening really assisted in my recovery process. I will never actually understand how someone that is meant is to love you could do such things, but I understand that it was not my fault and you can not help everyone, we can only help themselves. And that is what I decided to do for myself, help myself!

I continued my sessions until I felt confident to step out alone, no longer feeling scared or anxious. I changed career and became a Flight Attendant. I moved back out of home and began to get my independence back. I gained a new friendship through work, another bestie. He is actually the male version of my female bestie. they are so alike it’s scary sometimes. These beautiful people in my life are apart of my family and they, through their support and encouragement,  contributed to getting my confidence and self worth back. They brought out the fun times again, the genuine moments you share in relationships to make memories. This helped with my family bond too,  but I still felt and even today, I still feel I let them down. I know I will always feel this way but I put it in my back pocket and I get on with it.

I progressed quite fast at work, Flight Attendant to Cabin Manager and then to Line Trainer and checker within 3 years. This gave me courage, contentment and belief. I felt worthy again, a sense of accomplishment and I was getting rewarded for my hard work. It was awesome to be motivating and coaching others, something I’m so passionate about. Helping other’s! I’d go out again here and there, enjoying time with friends and family.  It was awesome to get out and let my hair down, socialise, meet new people and just simply have fun.

Started dating, interesting how things have changed. Pretty horrible that the dating scene has become a choice of a picture of someone and communication via text. What happened to conversation, getting to know someone face to face and using our sensor’s of touch, scent and looking into someones eyes….really seeing all of them to know if there is a connection or not. I gave up pretty quickly and made the decision to focus on myself, I can compliment myself. But how would I do this?

I felt alone, something was missing and I felt I had no purpose and nothing or no one to support. Yes I have a wonderful family and I’m so lucky to have them. My small group of friends that I consider as family are just amazing humans. But they’re off creating their own families, people to look after and people to look after them. How can I have this? Well I have ME and I’ll support ME. This is when I made the decision to completely change my lifestyle, to get healthy, fit and strong. I was not going to let anyone break me down again.

To do this I had to choose a positive mindset, I had to commit, be consistent and work hard. That I did! I gained so much physical and mental strength, my progress became addictive. I began to nourish my body with plenty of good nutritious food, which ensured I fuelled my body according to my training and what physique I wanted to achieve. I learnt so much about clean eating that I began a little home hobby of making “super clean treats”.  I was supporting and encouraging others in the gym, as they were also supporting and encouraging me to be the best version of myself. I was creating a family, a new lifestyle, something to be proud of, something that gave me purpose, something I could support and could support me.

This all gave me a reason to be fully content with my life again. I can achieve anything I set my mind too. I can be just as strong as the person next to me. I can feel good about myself. I can step outside my head and push to another level. I can transform myself physically and mentally. I can motivate others. I can help others. I can let others help me. I can be happy, healthy and I have purpose.

I discovered my potential! And I will continue to push this potential because I will never settle for anything less.

Do  You.  For  You.  #doyouforyou

Goals… Effort…

“Don’t decrease the goal. Increase the effort”.

So far in my fitness/health journey I’ve achieved many goals and developed as an individual to be better than I was the day before. I’ve always been the type of individual that needs to be challenged, I thrive on change and trying new things. I haven’t always succeeded, but many times I have. So it’s either been a lesson or an achievement and both to me are wins in life.

Living a fit/healthy lifestyle provides me with so many different things to try. I can lift heavy weights, whether it be a PUSH, PULL, LEGS or CORE session. I love a good
Power Circuit session, especially blog effortwith a buddy or a group of elite crew. Cardio for me is minimal as I’ll lose weight and this is not one of my goals, but for my cardiovascular function, it’s still very important to get a few cardio sessions in a week. 3km run, 20 minutes on the stepper, air bike or rower are my favourite to get a good sweat going! Also adding sprints in between my sets when I’m weight training gets the heart rate up. Stepping outside my comfort zone I’ll do a Bikram Body Sculpt class from time to time and I’m loving my weekly Body Box sessions.

Also nutrition, we are what we eat! I’m a strong believer in the importance of fuelling your body right, even more so when you lead a very active lifestyle. Clean eating has been a massive achievement for myself and I can’t wait to share with you all my savoury macro balanced meals and of course my super clean treats. My crew at work (I’m a Flight Attendant full time) can back me up here, as they know as their Cabin Manager, I make it a priority that time is allocated to them to ensure they eat and drink during our duty. Hydration and nutrient dense food is so important in all daily activities, especially when flying in a pressurised cabin all day.

A new goal I’m now focusing on is strength, body weight stuff and being extremely technical when it comes to my form. No exercise is a race, need to focus on the range of motion and time under tension. Building up my strength and perfecting my form is going to be challenging but I need a point of difference, to stand out from others, I want to try something new and I want to push myself to another level in my fitness journey. So I’m experimenting, learning from others and educating myself. I’m increasing my effort!

My PT studies at the moment has been all about the “Great 8” (main exercises), rest and recovery, creating programs and training with older adults. I’m learning so much personally and professionally. So good to broaden my knowledge and I guess a big part of setting new goals and stepping outside my comfort zone with training, is to learn so much more. This will help me to determine what kind of PT I want to be and I’ll have a great understanding of so many different types of training.

For me it’s important to keep things interesting when it comes to exercises, for my mental health and physical health. I need to stay motivated and I do not want my body to plateau, I’ve come so far and I’m not going to decrease my goal! Using different kinds of gym equipment, gym accessories and variations to an exercise mixes up the intensity, load and ultimately the results I’m working hard to achieve.

Do  You. For  You.  #doyouforyou

In Your Own Skin…

Let’s talk about imperfections, but are they really imperfections? Stretch marks… I have them, a lot of them. Mainly on my butt and upper legs, as seen in the pic below (Oct 2017 4mths into my fitness journey) Do I let them bother me? No I don’t!

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Scares, imperfections, curves, freckles and marks on our bodies are apart of life. Accept them, embrace them and just be you. Never be embarrassed about a mark you may have, they tell a story, it’s apart of your make up and whether the story is a good one or a bad one, it’s shaped you to be who and where you are today. Every thing that we experience is meant to be, so even if it’s a tough experience turn it into a positive and use it to grow, to evolve and most of all to be challenged to become stronger…in your own skin.

Sure times get crazy and we get a bit lost, down and confused, but just breath, have your moment then let it go. Talk to those close to you, the ones that will not give up on you no matter the situation. It’s important to surround yourself with those that are supportive, honest, encouraging and loving. Having solid friendships/relationships are important and those that stick with you when it’s tough, they are the keepers. Knowing you have these real friendships around you will help you to refocus, commit and succeed in whatever you are doing….in your own skin.

We are what we put into ourselves, so be happy with your choices because they were the right choice’s for you at that time. Never question or regret a choice. Don’t judge others for their choices either, it’s their life journey not yours. You want to change something about yourself, do it. You don’t want to change something about your yourself, you don’t have too. But don’t complain if things don’t change when you are not doing anything about it. It’s your choice, your actions and only you can change it. You need help, ask. There is nothing wrong with asking someone for help….in your own skin.

Embrace all that you are for you and only you. Make your life journey your own not someone else’s and don’t be influenced by others. Be a point of different, lead don’t follow and always stand tall. Be happy….in your own skin! How ever you want to wear it!

Do You. For You. #doyouforyou

Why Activate Your Body?

IMG_3493_BWHow I came up with the name “Activate Your Body”.

Activate… Switch on. Start. Turn on. Energise.

The hardest thing with anything in life is to start, to make a choice, to embrace change and to better ones self. Once we start we feel energised, we gain motivation, we get excited and, well for me, I had a sense of self worth, a purpose.

Your Body… Physique. Anatomy. Shape. Figure. Bones. Skeleton.

We only get one body, so look after it, use it to its full potential and make it the best it can be. Work it. Fuel it. Nurture it. Keep it strong. Keep it fit. And most of all keep it healthy, physically and mentally.

From my experience in my journey, it’s pretty amazing how one can change their entire physique and internal health through the power of exercise and good nutrition. Also the mental power you gain through the journey to believe in yourself. It’s not always easy and you will have tough moments, but you pick yourself back up and keep pushing. It helps to have positive support around you, don’t let others bring you down, use those that doubt you as fuel to push even harder.

Do  You.  For  You. #doyouforyou

Welcome to my site

Hello and welcome to my new site. This is the place to come and learn about all things fitness and nutrition. IMG_3280_BWI aim to motivate and inspire you toward your own healthy lifestyle journey.

This is my journey which I am going to share with you.

True motivation comes from within. No one can hand it to you, but no one can take it away either”

Do you. For you.